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Dealing with change

How are you coping with the thought of restrictions being lifted soon? I’m seeing  quite a few clients who are finding the change difficult. This blog will look at why.

First things to say, if you are worried about the change, we are going through you are not alone. Many people find change difficult. It can be uncomfortable. And this is normal! I will tell you why.

How we stayed safe

It is a natural part of our human nature to want to stay safe. It is part of our theory that the is part of our human nature. And there is a good reason.  For most of our existence as a species, we lived close to the natural world. And it could be a dangerous world. It is necessary to our survival to stick to what we knew. So, we evolved to like what we know and avoid what we do not. And, even though we live a very different life, we are still stuck with that brain.

Different reactions to change

How we see the world will affect how we cope with change. We can see this in the world now. In some ways, the disagreements and arguments are even sharper than at the height of the pandemic. Some people are out on the streets protesting against all lockdown measures while others argue we are opening up too quickly. There are those of us who are desperate to get vaccinated and others who do not want the vaccine. If we understood how we react to change it would be easier for us to understand these different points of view and to change minds where that is necessary.

Neural pathways and change

We now have evidence from MRI scans of our brains. We can see that habits make neural pathways in our brains, what we do a lot of will travel along these well-established highways. If we cannot do this, then we have to use less travelled pathways. That can be difficult. But it is not impossible. It is even good for us. It keeps our brains young and healthy and might even stave off diseases like dementia. 

Brain training for change

You would not run a marathon without training. You would start with a park run. If you find change difficult use the same idea. You can train your brain to accept new ways. Here is how you do it. Pick something you do not usually do with your brain. You can pick a be a big challenge, such as learning a language or pick something small like listening to a new type of music. If you often read romance novels, try reading non-fiction. If you watch documentaries try a costume drama. All these changes are getting your brain used to change.

You can also try doing different types of puzzles or quizzes, again this stretches you out of your comfort zone. Or, if you are a thinker, not a practical person try taking up a hobby that uses your hands, knitting, or embroidery for example.

Let me know how you get on.

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